WRITING THE SEQUEL TO THEIA MANIA
we always say it’s our daughters, our wives, our sisters who are getting raped, we never say that it’s our sons, our fathers ,our brothers who are doing the raping.
Get fucked, you’re making it sound like males are the only gender committing rape.
While I couldn’t find statistics on female to male rape, I imagine it must be quite low since when it happens a news story is made about it. Its clear by the evidence that men are by far the majority of the offenders of rape.
9 of every 10 rape victims were female in 2003.2
About 3% of American men — or 1 in 33 — have experienced or attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.1
This is not to say that every man is a rapist, but merely that of those that do rape are overwhelmingly male.
So yes, focusing on teaching boys and men that rape and sexual assault is wrong and terrible is overwhelmingly a good idea.
Although female to male rape is certainly rare (although it does happen), a more common overlooked tragedy is male to male rape, which this anecdote from Lizzie the Lezzie shows us how important the absence of education on this matter is:
Rates of male homosexual abuse (physical, sexual, and emotional) are overwhelmingly high. However, as we (yes, I am a gay molecular biologist) only compose 10% of the population, this matter does not get much attention. Even more importantly, the fact remains: you do not need to be homosexual to be raped by another man. Unfortunately, the way our society looks down upon homosexuals, many heterosexual men who are raped by men do not report the crime because they are afraid that it will make people think that they are gay, and that is just not true.
To my followers: I am sorry that this is not molecular biology, science, or academia-related, but this is a very important matter to me. If you are in fact homophobic, please do not follow my blog.
Its only “rare” because it isn’t classified as rape in this country unless the victim is penetrated. A female forcing a male to have non-consensual sex isn’t considered rape here.
But here’s what happens what we change the definition of rape from “having something shoved in you” to “forced to have non-consensual sex.”
Boys in juvy raped by women. (94% are by women yet only 40% of the staff is female.)
Holy Mary Mother of God. Jesus FUCKING Christ.
For the thousandth FUCKING time
this post is not an awareness post about how men can be raped by women, nor is it a post about male victims. All the rest of tumblr is free to make those posts. Stop fucking hijacking the conversation
THIS POST IS ABOUT THE LANGUAGE WE USE WHEN WE SPEAK ABOUT RAPE, THE OVERWHELMING MAJORITY OF WHICH IS COMMITTED BY MEN AGAINST WOMEN. THEY COMMIT IT AND WE AS A SOCIETY, A COUNTRY A FUCKING SPECIES
DO NOT HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR CRIME
AND THE LANGUAGE WE USE REFLECTS THAT
IT’S NEVER MY FATHER MY BROTHER MY SON MY HUSBAND MY BOYFRIEND IS A RAPIST
IT’S ALWAYS MY POOR DAUGHTER SISTER MOTHER WIFE GIRLFRIEND GOT RAPED
THINK ABOUT THAT
ABOUT WHAT THAT MEANS
WHEN YOU COME BACK TO ME
AND ALL YOU’VE GOT IS ‘BUT MEN’
YOU’RE MISSING THE FUCKING POINT
SO GO BACK
AND THINK ABOUT IT SOME MORE
“Don’t be so vain to think that you ruined me,
that you wrecked me,
I am the only one who has the power to do that.”
— Amanda Helm, The Day I Learned That I was Broken
It’s a triskele. The spirals mean different things: past, present, future; mother, father, child. Know what it means to me? Alpha, Beta, Omega? That’s right. It’s a spiral. Reminds us that we can all rise to one or fall to the other. Betas can become Alphas, but Alphas can also fall to Betas or even Omegas.